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What a Tangled Web Grief Weaves

Greetings! Thank you for stopping by to check out my new website and blog space. This may come as a surprise, but this is such an exciting time for me in the midst of mourning such a precious loss. My mother died a year ago on this day, September 7, 2020.

Mixed messages and feelings have a whole other meaning when you are randomly selected to join this implausible club-Grief!

At the same time, when grief strikes, it kind of becomes the norm for a while as nothing makes sense anymore.

If you can relate, then you probably were just as amazed as I was to discover what lies beneath the surface of those felt emotions in grief too. But, if you don’t what I mean, I invite you to follow along. I’ll hold your hand!

My amazement resurfaced again when I sat down with the founder, Helena Bates, of Heartthrob Access. Helena’s sun-rays grazed me through America’s Mom, Tabitha Brown, which came at a much darker time during the earlier parts of my grief journey.

As fate would have it, Helena, Tabitha and I each have different stories. Yet some of the greatest things we have in common are the loss, love and heart that still beats within us for our mothers.

During Helena’s recollection of her journey in mourning, she said, “I was angry at my mom for leaving me.”

Of course, I validated Helena’s feelings of anger. No, not because it was expected based on the often misappropriated and outdated model of grief by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, but because this is actually how grief goes. The loss and feelings that accompany it don’t make sense no matter what the facts are.

“I realized I was in this exact space during a conversation with my sister. My sister said it was not my mother’s choice to die, which never occurred to me until being in that moment,” said Helena.

It was Helena’s moment of truth: she was both angry and sad. When we give ourselves permission to fully open up to experience the lows as well as the highs of the grieving process, growth is inevitable.

I am proud to announce that I am the official brand ambassador and blogger for Heartthrob Access!

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